When we’re afraid of feeling blame or shame, it’s difficult to accept responsibility for our actions. A good way to move through life with integrity is to ask ourselves “What within us might have wanted, or needed, to create this situation?”
Real growth only happens when we investigate the thoughts, attitudes and behaviours that get us into challenging situations in the first place.
What was it we wanted to feel?
Could we have behaved differently and caused less suffering to ourselves and others?